Lately God's been pulling me closer to Him, and the longing I feel for Him is so similar to the longing I feel for a relationship with a man...that wanting to be loved and to have an intimate friendship.
I've been looking at fairy tales differently. There's a reason we long for a prince to pull this lonesome damsel from distress. We are in distress. We are sinful human beings surrounded by many other sinful human beings in a fallen world.
Elisabeth Elliot once said that you can't help but marry a sinner. Even when we do have a man-even a strong, godly man in our lives-it is impossible for him to fill every void, to truly be constant in every single situation. That's because he is only a glimpse of Christ. Man is commanded to love woman "just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it." (Ephesians 6:25)
He is called to be a picture of Christ, but he's just that: an imitation, a striving for what Christ is. Just as we females are only a pathetic view of what Christ's bride should be, "a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish." (Ephesians 6:27)
So, although our longing for a relationship with a man is normal-and it should be there-only Christ can completely fill that hole in our hearts. I don't believe a woman is fully deserving of the beautiful relationship of marriage, until she has truly understood fidelity in her relationship to Christ. Not until He is her singular passion, can she truly revel in the significance of marriage that should continue to point her towards Jesus Christ.
So, please don't push that longing away. But, do not allow the fleeting relationships of many men to replace the void that only Christ can fill. And don't expect that fidelity to one human man will fill that void.
Save both places in your heart. The one that God fashioned just for the one man that will take care of you during your life here on earth. And, even more importantly, that even larger place that Christ will fill now, and throughout eternity.
Only Christ is truly faithful and loving. He beats Fitzwilliam Darcy and Cary Grant hands down, ten times over. Christ always knows what we need, whether it's what we want or not. And yes, He has a home prepared where He will carry His redeemed damsel to a longing fulfilled...for eternity.